There can be all sorts of reasons for people to dispute the estate of a deceased loved one and it often causes conflict in families that have got on perfectly fine until this happens. The secret to sorting out an estate dispute that is acceptable to all parties is to try and reduce the conflict as much as possible. Here are a few tips to help you.
One of the most important things with any dispute is to keep calm. An attitude of anger and disrespect will just inflame the situation and make it harder to resolve. The conflict can be pushed to one side and matters sorted amicably if everyone approaches the situation with the right attitude.
One of the worst things you can do when you find yourself in an estate dispute is lash out in anger and insult the other persons involved. A good attorney on your side will try to stop you from doing this, as they know how destructive it can be.
In the grand scheme of life, you have to ask yourself what is more important. Would losing the friendship and love of other family members be worth an argument over material items? You do not want anyone to take advantage of you by any means, but also you need to keep in perspective what really matters.
Finding a balance between being fair and being too aggressive will help to lessen the possibility of driving a wedge between you and the other parties involved.
Know Your Rights
Everyone has legal rights where estates are concerned, and you should know what yours are. However, you should also be aware of what the deceased person wanted and aim to make sure their wishes are carried out. An estate dispute is not something you should try to fight on your own. You need the services of a good attorney to help you through all the processes and to guide you in the right direction.
Use A Mediator
If you really cannot settle the dispute between you, it is time to consider bringing in a mediator to try and calms things down and get the matter sorted. When there are properties, businesses, trusts and family heirlooms involved, it is not worth breaking them up in a way that is not beneficial to you all. As an outsider, mediators can sometimes see a clear way through all the problems where those involved have become clouded by emotions.
Encourage Clear Instructions
The dispute may well have been avoided if clear instructions have been left and they were discussed with the main beneficiaries before the death happened. Then any disputes are sorted at the time and the party that is leaving the goods can make it perfectly clear to everyone what they want to happen. Unfortunately, talking about death and what happens afterward is not always done in the US. It tends to be an avoided subject, but if only people had talked about it more there would be a lot fewer estate disputes.